The thngs my T is strict about:
1. No hugs
2. If I need something, tell him. No ambiguous games or assuming he is a mind reader.
3. If things get too be too overwhelming to tolerate or too unsafe for me, then getting immediate help is in order-- there is no question or argument about that.

Things my T is flexible about:
1. Phone calls. I can call as much as I need to. He has spoken to me on the phone for up to 45 minutes without charging me.
2. Physical contact that is restricted to hand-holding.
3. Letting the session go over if I need it. Not pushing me out the door if I am an emotional mess.
4. Giving me things-- he has given me many books, movies, and CDs to keep.

I am very comfortable with what we have in place. Anythng that comes up in regards to these isses has been, and will always be, discussed in session.