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...he apologized in his own way.

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I think this statement is important. Although your Dad had problems, he eventually, recognized that he had caused you and other family members pain and grief. It may have been too little too late, but in some small way he acknowledged it and tried to make amends.

In what Sunrise described, her husband is not really acknowledging any fault yet, let alone that fact that his actions may have consequences later on.

I guess the question is.. if Sunrise's husband just simply apologizes to get the other team members off his back, is it worth doing? Unless he really can be made to see how his actions affected others, and then decides on his own to apologize--I don't think the act of apologizing is helpful.

Should he apologize to both Sunrise and the kids? Absolutely, but only if he wants to and if he truly means it.

I think about how many times as a child I was given the.. "Don't you think you owe him/her an apology?" by a parent or teacher. Most of the time inside I was thinking, "F*&^ NO!" But on the outside I was lowering my head and saying, "s-o-r-r-y." An empty apology is worth less than no apology--At least to me.

Perna, I also had a similar thought about the prediction. I just assumed he was describing a single possible outcome. Afterall they are in therapy working hard to prevent some of these adverse outcomes. If it is that cut and dry, why bother.

Sunrise, I really hope during this meeting you and your T were at least able to get him the fathom that a father's actions (both positive and negative) leave many hidden imprints on his children.