Everyone has baggage. You might want to write a letter to your dad....a letter of restorative justice.....restorative justice says; this is what you did; this is how it made me feel. The letter is for YOU. In sending a letter he can't overtalk, deny or argue with you. Most abusers deny all of the abuse. Getting into therapy could help, also. I had a terribly abusive childhood, plus being molested and living in poverty I made a vow to never be like my abusive mother, and I did it; I had children and was the mother I never had (and would have liked to); that in itself was healing.