Hi jimi, I haven't read all of the responses yet. I do sort of relate. Things get mixed up in communicating on here. I feel I have one friend that is true to me here, but I like all opinions if I ask for help. I take what I think I can use to help me. I also do my best to help but am unsure of how to reply. So, for me it comes down to privacy, the feeling of community support, and a place to vent.
I don't think you are being phony. I haven't noticed many of your posts until recently, and I think you are a helpful, interesting person. Try not to worry too much, this isn't about lying, maybe more about being unsure of yourself. It happens to all of us, I think. best to you