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Originally Posted by BudFox
I don't see the point of making this into a problem and self-pathologizing. If you reveal personal stuff, and the other person does not, it creates an imbalance that undermines trust and safety, and attempting to right this by finding out more about the secretive therapist is normal. Or, if the process creates some emotional dependency and you feel disconnected in the void between sessions, it would also be normal in my opinion to take steps to ameliorate that. In my experience therapists are too stupid /andor too manipulative to acknowledge how they are provoking people in this regard, so that doesn't help.
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I agree that it’s normal to want to restore the balance of power in this relationship that is lopsided by nature, and I agree that it doesn’t make sense to pathologize my emotions or reactions to this strange relationship. I do have an interest in understanding my reactions to situations in therapy and how they relate in the bigger picture to my reactions to others in my real life. I’m sorry you have not had good therapy relationships. I’ve only had this one, but he’s been kind, gentle, caring and certainly not manipulative or stupid. I wouldn’t stay if that’s how I perceived him.