Most likely your mother appreciated the companionship and purpose she experienced from that relationship with her neighbor. She had someone to talk to, to watch TV with, perhaps to cook for and sit and eat with. It may have also contributed to her feeling she had a purpose in her life, something to get up for and participate in that she found rewarding.

Well, now that this neighbor passed away she will actually experience a loss, a void because her companionship and her purpose is now gone. THAT is what SHE now needs support for, it's not about the man but what that relationship ment to HER. That is what needs to be considered AND RESPECTED.

Just because you did not care for this man, would not want to experience companionship or care for him like your mother chose to do doesn't mean what you feel or think should be the way to see things. Often what people consider having value is based on what THEY value instead of developing the ability to RESPECT what someone else VALUES.

People don't really take the time to know another person intimately. It's very sad to me because it creates a lot of lonliness in people and they tend to question their personal value and struggle with feeling depressed and unworthy in some way. Companionship forms when two people engage in being more intimate with each other and they begin to form a caring bond for each other and that can give their life "meaning". That was lacking for your mother and she ended up spending time with this neighbor poshgirl and it provided her with her own personal sense of purpose. That is what is now LOST to her and what you need to respect despite whatever you liked or did not like about this neighbor.