(((((((((((((( Jazz )))))))))))))))))

You're in a rough spot.

I'm the mother of two grown daughters and I really tried hard not to do that stuff. Did I? Yep, but it was the exception and not the rule. I did pretty good there.

Now, there were times I'd stop after arguing for an hour and remind MYSELF AND HER that "just because", "because I'm mom and I feel I know what's best...right or wrong".

The mother/daughter relationship has said to be the MOST complicated ever. I believe it, being both.

It *will* get better, hon.

Are there other stresses going on in mom's life right now that's causing her to be overwhelmed? Is there a way you and family could help her with those, explaining that you hope it helps overall? Have you tried, WHEN NOT ANGRY, to tell her how that makes you feel? Don't say the really important stuff when arguing because it usually doesn't go anywhere.

I'll tell you another thing, a couple of times my daughter wrote me notes...that sunk in...big time. We weren't arguing and she was able to pour out her heart and soul without defense. It helped immensely...my understanding of her.

I hope it gets better soon, hon.

KD