I have been involved with this person for 4 years. We had both been previously married. Him for 18 years; myself for 8 years. We both experienced infidelity in our marriages. We agreed neither of us were looking for a ‘serious relationship’ in the beginning. Within a few months, I was no longer seeing other people. He continued to date other women, along with myself. I’m at a point that I very much want exclusivity with this person...but he continues to say he doesn’t want “labels” because they just complicate things. As far as I know, he is seeing me exclusively at the moment...but by refusing to label us as a ‘couple’, I feel he is leaving himself open to continue to look for someone better! He tells me he loves me...and I am absolutely in love with him. After 4 years...am I just deluding myself that there’s a chance of a future with him? Am I just allowing myself to be used until “something better” comes along for him? Am I unreasonable to feel like he must not love me, even though he says he does, since he refuses to commit?