I find venting here on the forum very cathartic and therapeutic. And, I'm not "yelling" either. I won't apologize for the way I feel taken advantage of by my roommate, or feel guilty for venting about it. It's extremely stressful to be in my situation. Extremely stressful.

She can get over her depression. People get over depression. Cancer? No. Liver disease? That I have? No.

Sorry, but I have zero empathy for her. She has the financial resources, the social resources, ALL the resources one needs to get over their depression. She's just choosing not to and expects me, her temporary roommate, to take care of her and her son which is not my job! I'm just here to rent a room for god sake. That's all. It is NOT my job to see that she gets over her depression. It's not my job to take care of her son. She is supposed to do that. She has an ex-husband who can do that.

And I did speak to her tonight. I told her that I couldn't afford to pay for her and her son's groceries. She apologized for even texting me to ask that. So that was a step in the right direction. It's not as though she and I don't have verbal communication with each other. We do but it's very stilted since we are essentially complete strangers to each other. I need a good roommate reference from her, so I will not be confrontational with her hence my venting here online.

I am TRYING to have patience but the only person I am responsible for taking care of is myself.

She knows how grateful I am for being able to rent out her guest bedroom. But that doesn't obligate me to be her 24/7 caregiver b/c she is clinically depressed or whatever it is she is going through that she wasn't going through when I first moved in. I have been a good roommate too; I do all the housework, I take care of her cat, etc.,. and I have been pleasant and accommodating. But I have limits. I just spent a year taking care of my mother which was a very one-sided experience. And here I am again, taking care of someone. Who will take care of me? No one. All I have is myself to do that.