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Originally Posted by seesaw
Lots of people dont get over depression and end up dead. Robin William's, for one. Many others. One does not just get over depression. It requires treatment. Some people are able to do treatment on their own using different tactics. Some require professional help. Myself and many others on here can tell you about times when we could not care for ourselves due to depression. Depression does not care how much money you have. And seeking help is very difficult for exactly the attitude you have about it. The stigma that we should just get over it prevents many from seeking help.
But you're absolutely right. It's not your responsibility to help her get treatment. So let her be depressed and deal with her son. Just keep saying no and holding to your boundaries. It was nice if you to give her some resources, but now it's on her to seek help.
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Of course it's her responsibility to care for her son and seek help for herself. If I hadn't moved in here, if someone else had moved in here, they'd be in my situation most likely. She's not without friends so she's not isolated by any stretch of the imagination. She has friends bringing over food for her to eat.
And I've been depressed before but the difference is, I don't let it paralyze me to the point where I can't get out of bed. Does that mean I have an "attitude" about it? Certainly not.
What it means is, I choose to be proactive instead of wallow, because wallowing accomplishes nothing. She has the financial means to wallow and the resources to start working again whenever she wants to. So she is not down and out. She does not have liver disease like I do. Am I wallowing about that to her? No, I am not. Am I making MY problems her problems? No, I am not.
I do not have an attitude and I resent you accusing me of having one when you have no idea what it is like to be in my shoes. No idea.