Fair enough and thank you so much for being patient with me.

It seems to me that whether or not things can change depends on him. If he is truly a thoroughly great guy he will have his ego under control, he will accept loving constructive criticism, and you will see growth. If not, he won’t and you won’t.

If he is loving only when not being asked to change things, though, well, then I guess you would need to weigh the pluses and minuses. If nothing changes in a significant way, how enjoyable/welcome/acceptable/tolerable/fulfilling would a long-term relationship with him be for you?