Thread: I Cried
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Old Mar 27, 2008, 10:45 PM
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Your T understands that your crying shows that you are truly hurting and it is so okay to cry... Those experienced from our past hurt and they hurt deep into our core. The 'vault' has been opened and it will never be sealed as tightly as before especially for that pain - in a waynow everytime you can feel some of that pain and share it with your T - it will lessen and start to heal you. But you don't have to cry infront of your T again if you don't want to - when you feel the tears coming on - tell yourself - in your mind that we can cry in so many minutes (however much time it will take for you to get out of the office and into a safe place) and when you get to that safe place - let it out. Cry out the pain, the hurting, the fears and all the feelings that go along with abuse.

Merlin, I am 46 and am still working on abuse issues and I wish I had the strength to have dealt with these things earlier in my life - but I spent years denying all issues of my life. because like so many, i was raised with the belief "that no one has problems, bad things don't happen, that didn't happen in this family"...

You know what? Life is unfair, it really is and that is really hard for me to deal with. But we have to take the time to feel the pain and release it and let it heal. If you can do it at the wonderful age of 23 - maybe I also can work through this at the age of 46.

Keep pushing forward with it... and this is for you...