I am so sorry for what you have to deal with, @StreetcarBlanche! I don't think you are a bad person for setting up boundaries. In fact you're doing the right thing in my opinion. Telling her No and explaining to her why you can't do the things that she asks. Good on you! Be proud of yourself. That said, I also agree with seesaw and Tamster about the fact that she's most likely Depressed and is struggling a lot with doing anything at the moment. That doesn't mean that you have to do the chores for her... I'm just explaining why she is like that. Even though she may be financially ok and may have people supporting her that doesn't mean much when you're Depressed. It's a state of mind. Either way, it's up to her to get help so keep doing what you're doing! Just try to hang on for this month and hopefully you'll be able to move to another, better place. You're also doing well by setting up boundaries with your colleague at work. It seems like your Boss is being REALLY supportive of You and Your Situation! KEEP FIGHTING! Feel free to PM me ANYTIME when you need Advice and Support. I'm sure plenty of others will gladly help you as well! KEEP FIGHTING AND KEEP ROCKING! Sending many safe, warm hugs to You and Your Roommate, @StreetcarBlanche, and ALL the people You Love and who ALSO Love You back! Keep fighting and keepr ocking as much as you possibly can like you're already wonderfully doing entirely on your own! I also hope you'll be able to manage your Liver issues and ALL of your Health rpoblems REALLY soon and that you'll fell MUCH, MUCH BETTER and MUCH MORE HEALTHIER REALLY SOON! KEEP FIGHTING AND KEEP ROCKING AS MUCH AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN LIKE YOU'RE ALREADY WONDERFULLY DOING ALL AND ENTIRELY BY YOURSELF!