Hi Hdfatboybob1 welcome to Psych Central. That is definitely a challenge in that while you enjoy helping people in your work, when you walk away from that you need a break where you can interact with someone that doesn't have the same challenges/problems you deal with all day long at work. I am sure you care about your partner, don't want to hurt your partner either but the relationship has gotten too much for you. It's not easy to live with someone who struggles with mental health challenges.