Hello Hdfatboybob: Since this is your first post, here on PC, welcome to Psych Central.

From what you wrote, it sounds as though you may be contemplating separation & / or divorce. Here's a link to the Divorce & Separation sub-forum here on PC:

https://psychcentralforums.com/divorce-and-separation/

And then here are links to 7 articles, from Psych Central's archives, that (hopefully) may be of some help:

How Does PTSD Affect Relationships?

Understanding PTSD and its Effects on Marriage

You, Me and PTSD: Relationships with Partners Who Have Suffered Trauma | Partners in Wellness

Are You Ready For Divorce? 8 Questions You Should Answer

https://psychcentral.com/blog/the-di...men-and-women/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/want-a...dium=popular17

https://psychcentral.com/lib/when-on...-other-doesnt/

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.