It's possible that you live with someone that still carries emotional baggage from his past even though he doesn't want to experience that, this tends to present "anger" and even distancing. It's no wonder he isn't interested in marriage counseling, often a person wont be interested in that because they subconsciously realize their unhappiness is mostly about themselves and how their personal history has affected them and what it means for them in the now of their lives.

How old is your husband?