Hello, Hummingbird--
I think you described your reaction very well and thoroughly. I don't think I can tell from your description of her behavior if she's ther therapist we should all avoid or whether there's some subtle technique going on here, but the most important thing is she's not meeting your needs. (She wouldn't be meeting mine either if she asked me why I wanted to be depressed.) I hope you communicate your feelings to her in more explicit detail. And, by the way, thanks for mentioning the trouble you have finding services that accept Medicaid. Interesting, isn't it? We're in some ways disadvantaged anyway by being old--and now the healthcare system disadvanatges us in relation to staying psychologically healthy.
This is my 1st post and I don't know how to send 'Hugs', but please accept them from me in this form.
Best,
Party of One