So. i’ve known this guy for a little over a year now and we are best friends. he lives in another state, but we all have a big internet friend group and we’ve all gotten along and never have had any fights or anything. a few months into our friendship i noticed he was flirting with me but i thought it was playful so i did it back and it went on for a little while. i found our he was poly and he started dating one person from our friend group and then he ended up getting 2 more boyfriends but would still flirt with me. i wanted to start something but talked to some irl friends and thought it would be for the best if i waited until i met him in person. we video call almost everyday and i’ve caught feelings, if he notices somethings off about me he immediately texts me and asks what wrong and if he can help. his very caring and so similar to me in so many ways so it makes us great friends. now that it’s over a year of knowing each other we were talking about getting and apartment together which i’m so totally cool with and personally can’t wait. but know that i keep getting these feelings for him i’m afraid to talk to him about my feelings...i’m not poly, i get jealous easily, and i have commitment issues. i also am close friends with his boyfriend and i don’t want him to be hurt by me dating his bf as well...i’m so afraid that if i do tell him that he will be disappointed in me or that if we start a relationship and do start living together that i will shut down and break things off and that he won’t want anything to do with me anymore. i don’t want to ruin things between us. i care for him so so much that i want to change things and go farther with him but also don’t want to be restricted and ruin everything... i don’t know yet if i can see a future with him cus i’ve never really thought about a future relationship (like getting married and stuff) and i don’t know how i feel about that and the fact that he’s poly...i just really don’t know what to do please help...