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Originally Posted by maybeblue
And how is it that it took him two years to come up with diagnosis that he can't treat? Do you feel like sharing what the diagnosis is?
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I've asked myself this question, too. For a long time, I felt I had more extensive problems than anxiety/depression (not that these are not terrible enough on their own), my original diagnosis. I expressed this to him a couple of times, but he never addressed it and I assumed he knew what I needed. The other diagnoses he considered giving me about a year ago were unrelated and he ended up not pursuing them or referring me out, but the new one makes total sense. I have to ask myself how it took him this long to make the connection. And I feel like a lot of time was wasted getting to this diagnosis. I don't want to say the diagnosis here, but I would tell you in private if you want.
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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel
I'm sorry you're dealing with this. This is not the norm. I can tell you that there are good Ts out there. I have found 2 good Ts after ex-T: T and L. It's okay if you need a break or if you decide not to try again. It's also okay if you do try again.
Something that a counselor told me: Ts are like politicians: they should be switched out every couple of years so you get a new perspective. That was and is hard for me to accept.
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That's a good point about changing therapists after a couple of years. It makes sense.
My therapist was good for me in many ways, and I liked him, but something definitely shifted toward the end. It was subtle but it was different. And then there is the question of how long it took to get a proper diagnosis. Needless to say, I have a lot of mixed emotions.
If I try another therapist, I want to remain as detached as possible. I made the mistake of thinking of him as a friend, or at least wanting him as a friend, and that's why this frustrates me so much. What's the point of a "relationship" with a therapist if it's so easily snuffed out in the end?