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Old Aug 30, 2019, 01:08 AM
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If you're the type of attaches to people, you'll probably attach again. Just as a warning.

I didn't want to attach to my T after ex-T abandoned me. I actually at one point told her I hate her. But over time, I got attached. I didn't want to attach to my back up T (L). I wanted a male T because I knew I'd be more likely to attach to a woman. But I wound up with L and was attached after the first phone call! I didn't want to. I still don't like it. I feel like I'm cheating on my T. But both T and L wanted me to attach to L. I still don't understand 100% why. I know part of it is because I'm less likely to give up if I'm attached.

Just don't go in thinking you can control whether you get attached or not. Sometimes it's beyond our conscious control.
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