I am SO SORRY to hear about your Father passing away, @t7pynn11! Allow yourself to take ALL the time you need to grieve your Loss, no matter HOW LONG it will take! I bid you WELCOME to this WONDERFUL Foroum! You've asked if you're doing the right thing right now by keeping your Mother away from you and ceasing ALL communication with hers. Of course, we can't tell you what's right or wrong as only your conscience can dictate wrong. I'd say that given how unrespectful your Mother has been towards You, your Wife and your Children your reaction is rather justified. After all you've given her the chance to re-think about what she's done to You and Your Family. Did she EVER apologize during ALL of the Time that has Passed? Perhaps the gifts were her own way to apologize to You? I am not sure. If you have NAY doubts about your choice, perhaps the best thing to do is to go see your Mother one last time - that is, if you wish to make up things with Her and give Her one last chance. Of course she may still be as stubborn and refuse to apologize so it's a risk you have to take. After that, you decide whether you're satisfied or not and what to do with Her answer. Please do not be hard on yourself. I'd say you need to be PROUD of Yourself instead for ALL of the htings that you're accomplishing ENTIRELY ON YOUR OWN and for waring to improve Your position as an Husband and Father. Acknowledging our Mistakes is NEVER easy but it's FUNDAMENTAL if we want to fix them first and you're doing EXACTLY THAT! It seems like you've learned from your Mother's past mistakes and you're now trying to corect yourself. So GOOD ON YOU! BE PROUD OF YOURSELF FOR WHAT YOU'RE ACCOMPLISHING! Feel free to PM me ANYTIME when you need Advice and Support! I am DEEPLY, TRULY SORRY for the Loss of Your Father and I hope you'll be able to Grieve your Loss. Take ALL the time you need to do that. Take things one step at the time. Take baby steps. Take little steps. I am SURE PLENTY OF OTHERS WILL ALSO BEAUTIFULLY, SURELY, GLADLY, GENEROUSLY, KINDLY, MARVELLOUSLY, WISELY AND WONDERFULLY HELP YOU AS WELL IF YOU JUST ASK FOR THEIR HELP! Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH You, @t7pynn11, Your Family, Your Wife, Your Children, Even Your Mother Your Friends And ALL Of Your Loved Ones! Please do keep fighting and please do keep rocking as much as you possibly can like you're already WONDERFULLY doing ALL and ENTIRELY BY YOURSELF and ALL and ENTIRELY ON YOUR OWN!