The state is sooooo screwed up at times. I can't even begin my rants about them. Sometimes I wonder if they even think about the impact on the child.....?

I'm sorry you lost your daughter. Have you thought of becoming a CASA???? (Court Appointed Special Advocate for Children) Basically, you would be responsible for overseeing and advocating for foster kids in terms of where they should be placed ,etc.
It might be a way to help with the empty nest.... and CASA's are COOL. The kids love them because its a relationship without strings!