Nah, you're not a harrasser, but work on your issues first before you try to approach women. I mean, that's the most logical thing to do, right? I am not saying you can never approach women. But approach them in the right way. I'm not saying what you did was bad or even necessarily wrong given that you said you have anxiety issues and stuff. But you could join a meet up group in which people with similar intrests to yours meet in a group setting. Women are usually more comfortable, especially when meeting for the first time, in a group setting (this is generally true for me, too, being a man, because there's not as much pressure for me to "act like a man" whatever that means). So when I read that you tried talking to her in situations when you were both alone I figured that probably wasn't the best approach. But seriously, as others in this thread told you, think of it as something you can learn about yourself from. Also, having dealt with similar things before myself, I feel like approaching women from a place of confidence is very difficult, and perhaps it will never become easy for anyone. But, it's good to know the difference between what is outright creepy and what is okay, given norms these days. There is a difference.