Why not ask your T to consult with the woman to whom you wrote. Consultation would be very appropriate for him to do now, given how your are feeling. Therapy seems to be breaking you down rather than giving you resilience right now, and your T has the responsibility to seek consultation. She seemed right away to pinpoint perhaps a lack of attunement on his part. He is not an inexperienced T who took your case naive to the complexities . To me, he needs to take responsibility that you are on his watch , under his care , and you are not clear he is doing no harm.