I understand your pain from past hurts, I think most of us can and wish it could all be fixed immediately or better yet to never have happened in the first place.

Maybe I misunderstood your post but there is no magic fix. All any of us can do is put in the hard work and practice to improve our responses to current emotions and overcome our past by learning productive skills to help us lead a more positive, productive and happier life.

DBT, CBT, EMDR and all of the other treatments are only tools to reach our goals. Unfortunately they all require us to be open for change and put in the hard, tedious, painful work which will definitely take us out of our comfort zone (by design) in order to improve our lives. One will never forget the past but with work and time, the painful memories can morph into just distant memories that are a part of our past but no longer controlling our present or future.

My T always says that he knows this sucks, it is not my fault i was dealt a bad hand in life and it is not fair that I have to deal with it, but unfortunately I am the only one who can do something about it unless I want to choose to continue to live in misery.

I know this is not what anyone wants to hear, we all want a magic wand to make it stop and just go away but I hope it helps to know you are not alone.