Thanks for the reply, LittleBlackDog. Again, I'm so sorry you are suffering.

In regards to depression, it is true that some persons are so totally disabled by it that they literally cannot get out of bed. So if you are getting up and going to work, and even volunteering, you would seem to be relatively high functioning even though you feel like cr---p all the time.

I wonder, did the grief counseling help at all while it was going on?