Hi, I'm sorry you didn't get any replies yet. This section of the forum isn't very busy.
What you describe sounds traumatic indeed.
Do you have a therapist?
It looks like you may have issues with setting boundaries. Perhaps you're a highly sensitive person.
There are books I recommend : Elaine Aaron Highly sensitive person
Pete Walker's From surviving to thriving CPTSD

Welcome to the forum and I'm sure you'll get more responses, but unfortunately I, sometimes it can take time.