I talked about this in a thread the other day, where I asked T how she can go away for a holiday when she says she has claimed me? IT was when she reminded how I still hold my children inside of my heart even when I'm doing other things away from them, that I got to see the whole picture..ITs a matter of working trough this issues, we wont one day think, oh its fine I feel fine your leaving me, its hard work and plenty of blood, sweat and tears to work through these issues..