It is tough, especially how it went with a previous T when I mentioned my feelings about her not replying to all emails. She became defensive as well. I know your T does...it's so hard.

This T said only recently that she hoped she would never become defensive with me and so far she hasn't, even when I briefly mentioned a different painful issue that had come up between us. She handled that well, but for some reason talking about contact feels extra risky. It's the fear of losing it I think.