This is an interesting question.

I am more accepting of my dx than I have been over the years. I think the BPII dx fits me better than other dx I have had in the past.

I have , just this past week, had to disclose my diagnoses to a perfect stranger. It felt a it anxiety-provoking. I had to talk about BPII, PTSD and dissociation. FUN! Once I was done (she was listening intently), she spoke up and asked me if I know my triggers? Wow! This from a someone who is not a mental health professional. Maybe she is living with PTSD as well? We just never know!

I do not tell everyone about my dx, ,any of them. I do share with a few people I feel are safe and are sane about mental health issues. People I trust are likely to know much more than people I do not trust.

As for sharing info with other doctors, I have some reservations. I get my medical care at a large university hospital. We have electronic records. Anyone with a password can access my chart, even though they are not "supposed to do so." This is a relatively rural area and the hospital is the biggest employer in our state. Thus everyone knows many working at the hospital and vice versa.

I know a nursing supervisor who's ex-husband had skipped out of town and was not paying child support. Nobody could find him in a timely manner. She accessed the electronic system and "admitted" her ex to the hospital. The insurer popped up for some reason. His address also became available, even though he lived in a different state. (It came from the insurer.)
She took down the info and them discharged him. Although I think this was a very creative method to address her predicament, I 'd guess HIPPA regs were violated.

My niece works for the local university hospital. She codes visits/procedures for billing. She often gets files of mine and of other family members. She can read the entire chart. There is no regulation against reading the chart or looking at all diagnoses. Policy states they can code the procedure or they can pass the chart off to a colleague for coding. She says she chooses to pass off the charts of family members. Yet, what if she did not do so? I trust her, yet there are others I do not trust.

Someone in this community who works for the hospital can access my records anytime, even though they are not supposed to do so.