Try to be more aware of your behavior and try to catch the moment when you are being manipulative.

But it seems like you are a good person. You dont want to consciously hurt anyone emotionally and making this thread showing that you care about people.

You have good intentions and it counts the most. I think maybe you are exaggeratinng a bit. Remember that everyone sometimes manipulate unconsciously in some way and its nothing bad.

having good intentions and trying to be good, its enough i suppose and try to be more aware of your behaviour/words. Good luck my friend