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Old Sep 02, 2019, 03:32 PM
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This is such a challenge as your sister is very deeply bonded with her baby and is acting on her desire to make sure her baby is fully protected which to your sister means her having full control over her child. It genuinely sounds like that is the most important thing to your sister. Some women actually get deeply bonded with their child, it's really part of how women are designed to be, it's often a love like no other which can explain why she is having deep challenges with any lawyer who tries to tell her she has to allow her husband to have rights to his child too. Often this can be more intense when a woman breast feeds her baby, that tends to make their bond even more biological.

This is definitely a deep psychological challenge for many women that form deep bonds to their babies so her husband should actually back off and consider the well being of the child. It may be helpful if he agrees at first to just be able to visit his baby while the mother can be close by to supervise. Your sister is also reacting to the fact that her husband likes to drink and party with his friends and doesn't think it's bad if the baby is around when he does this or wants to hang out with his friends at car shows and thinks it's ok if the baby is out with him while he is often at one of these events where it can be hot and not very healthy for the baby to be expected to be in that environment for a long time. He is not thinking about the signficance of what that baby means to your sister, so my guess is that is what is behind most of their arguements. Unfortunately, men don't experience the same deep biological bonds as the mothers do. Often they even get jealous of the way the mother bonds with the baby.
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