I have a bad feeling about this based on what you've said. I also kind of get the feeling that while you say he makes you feel safe, this disclosure has you questioning that. Maybe I'm wrong, but I'm reading your post as if you're basically saying 'help, I know something isn't quite right about this but I want to ignore it because I have transference - so can somebody reassure me things are fine?'

If that's what's happening, I would really suggest trusting the part of you that was troubled enough to make this post.