Hey, Spazkatt, If you find you are not ready, please remember how brave you are just for posting what you did.
I believe that when you are ready and feel safe enough, things can come out.
It may be enough for you just to post here to let us know you are on the brink of saying something and to see the reaction.
When you step off the brink, we are here.
Remember that you are in control of how little / how much / whatever you say. Take your time.
Thinking of you at this big moment........can I offer a safe hug ?
((((((((((Spazkatt))))))))).........Poppet