Thanks, SE. I think you're right (and I'm just projecting--I mean, *I'm* tired of dealing with me!). He definitely invests a lot of time and thought toward my case and our relationship. The idea that he was worried about me right before he went away makes sense--his worry/concern may have just come out the wrong way in his email. Plus he didn't have another T backing him up this time, so that may have increased the concern.

I also think of how ex-T suddenly got cold toward me and was pushing the hospital on me one session, when I wasn't even doing that badly at the time. It really confused me. I asked her about it next session, and she admitted that she felt she might have gotten too close to me and worried she'd lost her objectivity. So she tried to pull way back. And she also worried she wasn't being effective in helping me, hence suggesting the hospital. Perhaps something similar is going on here (though I don't know that T would ever admit that to me, if he even realizes it himself).