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sarahsweets · Sep 03, 2019, 10:52 AM

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Originally Posted by BrittyBird

Long story short I was harassed by a girl I barely knew who seems to have it out for me. She went around spreading a twisted story/lie about my past,so I kindly messaged her my side of the story and blocked her as advised. After that a few hours later she messaged me a long paragraph on her alternate account. And then another half hour later she somehow found my other social media to message. She was angered and called me a ***** and said she didn't bother to read my story. How she doesn't care about me and how I don't affect her life. She said many horrible things I will not write unless someone asks me.

Did she threaten you? This seems very stalker-ish to me. You donot have to share what she said if you do not want to.

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She said that I was manipulative of others to get what I want,that I lie a lot (we never talked ever,I'm not kidding,) that I'm controlling or something. (Sidenote: she also got mad at my friend/her coworker for telling me what she was saying about me and got mad he "snitched" on her.)

What basis does she have for these feelings? Like what lead up to this explosion?

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I have about 30 ish friends that I've met in the last few years that can vouch for me that I'm nice and I couldn't hurt a fly with a handful that would REALLY vouch for me. I've had many come forward this week when they noticed me in distress assuring me that she's mentally insane or not right in the head because I never did anything wrong. I spoke with another friend who used to be very close with her, and she told me that she might be a Narcissist (not a professional diagnosis) and she has a lot of issues herself. How she's very vindictive and manipulating herself. I can't tell if everything she said to me was projection because we never talked and she never gave me a chance to talk to her. I'm also flabbergasted because according to a friend of mines who knows from a coworker that works with her,she's a psychology major.

I do not think it matters if she is a narcissist or projecting. She is HARASSING and that to me is the issue. It doesnt matter if you have 1 friend or a 100 friends that can vouch for you; you do not need anyone's approval or proof about who you are. What about this person's opinion affects you? Are your true friends cutting you out over this?