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When we get into relationships with people we have to accept what we are shown and that it may always be that way. You cant get into a relationship with the agenda of changing someone or hoping they will change. I am not saying you did this because the other posters know your history and I do not. People do change in relationships but as a couple. You grow together or apart or change together but one person being expected to change or a partner hoping they will change will never lead to a solid relationship. We teach people how to treat us. By that I mean boundaries and bottom lines. If there are none none will be respected. If there are bottom lines and consequences but they are not upheld than the behavior will never change. Its very much like addiction. I am an alcoholic in recovery. It took enormous pain and consequences for me to get sober. Without them, without my family setting boundaries I never would have had a reason to change.
As far as managing anxiety in a panic attack sort of way people often get annoyed when you tell them to take deep breaths.
The point of deep breaths are not to stop you from crying or thinking but too flood the brain and blood stream with oxygen. Extra oxygen and proper oxygen actually will lower your heart rate but you have to be willing to try it for like 10 minutes and really be mindful of the in and out portion of your breathing.
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