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For those that have read my previous post know my severe attachment to my T. I have said to him that he has peeled the layers of me like an onion leaving me vulnerable and he took my walls down. This has left me very exposed and that he is the one that has really seen me that I have been able to be vulnerable with. Because of that he is the only one I feel than can really emotionally hurt me. He said stop being vulnerable and put my walls back up and only let about 10% down because you do not need to let defenses down or walls down or be vulnerable for therapy to work.
That really left me scratching my head. How can I even talk to him if I put everything back up. My defenses and walls is to be condescending and obnoxious or not talk at all.
He still does not address my intense attachment to him directly at all.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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