The current T I have is so different from anyone else I have seen. She remains 100% calm, keeps 100% of her boundaries and still is there for me. I cannot speak enough for clear consistant therapy. Arguing constantly is great if it helps but if you are still stuck then you need to move on. When thing were over with ex T 1 I felt a huge wall of sadness and shame, slowly out of that emerged relief. I was so relieved not to argue with someone I cared about.