That sounds about right. And I don't even know if that's what I need. I think I just want a T to have more compassion toward me, to show more outward caring, to not interpret things I say or do as being about them, but looking at the bigger picture. Like, "Hm, what's going on with LT that she said/did this? This is probably about something else, not just me." Not "This makes me feel like you're trying to control me" or "This is manipulative."