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Originally Posted by atisketatasket
No, people in real life keep that hidden, and that’s why one never knows why one’s best friend suddenly stopped calling or whatever.
See, just as therapy can be a place of unconditional positive regard, it can also be a place to learn about one’s faults in a “safe” space. Your therapist definitely thinks it’s the latter and can’t seem to change his approach.
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Well, T doesn't believe in UPR...shocking, I know! He says it's unrealistic.
Last week, we were actually talking about how I've been surprised by people in the past--(best) friends, exes--who just bailed on me without warning (like, the one ex, we were talking about taking a summer vacation together one day, he broke up with me the next--nothing happened in between that I was aware of). He said it shouldn't be that way, that there should be warning that things aren't going well. That it should never come out of the blue. I understand what he's trying to teach me. And it's an important lesson. But it just feels he's pushing it too hard at times. For example, as a parent, I realize there are times to push certain lessons/rules and times to back off more, teach them another day.