LT, I haven't weighed in on your situation in quite a while but research shows that the biggest single predictor of success in psychotherapy is the quality of the relationship between the therapist and the client. Can more growth occur in the context of a relationship where you feel attacked? People can help us see hard truths about ourselves without making us feel attacked; it is possible. This T simply cannot do it or is unwilling to do it.

And, I'm sorry, he doesn't believe in unconditional positive regard? What the actual blank? It may be unrealistic but it's a goal thoroughly worth striving for if you choose to make your living as a therapist. I guess some in the psychoanalytic school don't believe in it but in that case they keep their lack of positive regard to their damn selves.