http://https://www.apa.org/pubs/jour...p-a0036866.pdf

Geez did they write this paper about me?

Adults with more attachment anxiety tend to
express more symptoms to engage others in what has been described as hyperactivating
strategies. These strategies are unconscious efforts to garner the other’s attention and
reinforce the interaction in which one feels cared for. Fosha (2000) describes anxiously
attached adults as having the capacity to feel but not deal with their emotions. They seek
out the reassurance from others and this bolsters their sense of self-esteem. This is similar
to Kohut’s notion that mirror hungry individuals lack a true sense of self and are often
maintaining their sense of self-esteem by seeking admiration from others