LT I don't think your T will ever "own up" because this is his style and he doesnt see anything wrong with it. Maybe he is right maybe he is wrong but in the end he is as hung up on semantics as you are. No therapy seems to be going on here and hasn't for a while. You blame your emotional state on him and how he could make it better but I think what he is saying is that you need to make it better not him.

He can't help you through this. whatever "should" happen isnt going to happen. Maybe someone else can help you make it better but he cannot. It might be time to stop looking to him to fix anything and start working out what you can do.