Emdr T and I discussed this quite a bit especially early on. She doesn't think I person should ever completely take the wall down. For a person with trauma history those walls served a very good purpose. That wall is our way of surviving and protecting ourselves. Even if I get to the point where my trauma is no longer a major issue and AI no longer need therapy I still need that wall. She feels to completely tear that wall down even with her is setting myself up for future harm. We very gradually take bricks down in appointments and then put them back up. A few times we have kicked the wall and I allowed myself to be TOO open and vulnerable which was too much for me. When that happens we have repair work. T and I call it a dance to figure out how many bricks to take down are safe, how many ti put back, etc