I really hope that your h truly gets it- i know at times my dad sometimes would say he's done bad things and that he wishes he'd been a better guy -- but he isn't! he didn't change!! He lives in his own magic bubble kingdom where everything is fine and he's a good guy - and can't understand why i won't talk to him. he wanted to stay in my life after the divorce, but he lost me anyway and will probably never get me back.
i really hope things are different for your kids.
and really - i hope.... hmmmmm... my mom thought he was a good guy. she really didn't see through the mist. i spent the next 7 years after her divorce telling her why is't a good thing we're rid of him.
tread carefully?
ask your kids what they think?