me too, I agree. My anxiety couldn't handle surgery and certainly not one that was absolutely necessary. For me to risk giving a body part to someone, well, they would need to be a VERY close family member. Chances are higher that the surgery would do well then, and the organ would be a better match.

I wouldn't feel too bad. maybe your friend could use a different kind of support from you. also, I think it is best to consider what you have going on in your life. consider your goals and lifestyle. maybe even try contacting someone in your friend's family for possible donors or relatives that may consider supporting your friend in another way.