I am DEEPLY SORRY this is happening to you, @1Martyr! Yes, I completely agree with all the other wise and wonderful posters. It all depends on how willing she is about working you your marriage together. From what you wrote it seems like she's already set up her mind about it. I am so sorry to hear that My advice would be to talk toher and see if there's anything that can be done. If she's still convinced that she doesn't want to work on your marriage, then yes, perhaps a divorce may be on the way. I know it is hard. Propose her to go to Couple Counselling. That could save your Marriage. However, the final decision is up to her. It take BOTH people to make a marriage work. If she doesn't want to work on it, then perhaps a divorce may be the best solution at that point! I am TRULY, DEEPLY SORRY for what you're going through! Feel free to PM me ANYTIME when in need of advice and support. I am sure plenty of others will also GLADLY and WONDERFULLY help you if you just ask. Sending many safe, warm hugs to you, @1Martyr, and ALL of your Loved Ones, including your wife and your children! I hope things will work out one way or another. Keep fighting and keep rocking as much as you possibly can like you're already WONDERFULLY DOING ALL AND ENTIRELY ON YOUR OWN!