@sarcgeo I read one of your posts and also said to myself that we have a lot in common... I don't think that my wife has really checked out as she is portraying but needs to acknowledge her part in where we are today as well. I wouldn't even be comfortable reconciling without her also acknowledging that she will work on herself to better the marriage. Instead of being angry at her for doing what she is doing I sincerely feel bad for her that she doesn't recognize the damage that is occurring with every passing day.