My husband and I are not having a good time lately. We've been together 6 years and married a little over a year. Throughout our relationship he has gone through bursts where he will go out with friends or his family (mainly his uncle) and either come home drunk, or not come home at all. Theres been instances where I've suspected him of doing cocaine (see my previous posts for more background).
So the past couple months we've been doing alright. Until this weekend. I picked up an overtime shift at work Saturday into Sunday (the shift was 8 pm until 9 am but I can sleep from 12-6, though its hard to get a good rest) so when I got home Sunday I took a nap. He got up to go to his cousins birthday party around 1 pm and i was still asleep. He and his friend picked me up around 3. His friend said he was already drunk. So we get to the party, and i also had a cold so I was just hanging out with his cousin and friend.
At around 7 I told him not to forget that we had to pay my grandfather rent (hes our landlord). He said to go without him. A little while later I walked to the store across the street to get a soda (could only find beer at the party). He was mad and kept telling me if I wanted to leave then leave. I told him I didbt want to leave that second, but we shouldn't stay too late.
So at 830 he asks me If I'm ready to go. I said sure and he said he had to pee. So I said my goodbyes and met him up front. He asked me where I was going and I told him he said he was ready to leave. He said no and that he wasnt leaving. I got upset and said he always does this and he gets drunk and doesnt come home.
So he stayed there and didnt come home. I went to work the next day and picked him up from his moms. He told me he only drinks once a week and that shouldn't be a problem. And that he thinks I hate his family and that's why I wanted to leave. And that he thinks that I want him to just stay at home and do nothing. I told him that wasnt true and that he didnt need to get wasted or stay out all night.
His sister had his phone so I picked it up when I left my friends. On his phone was a message asking someone for cocaine. I asked him and he said it was for his uncle. When I talked to my friend, she told me that he had messaged her sister on snapchat a few months ago asking her to do cocaine with him. I didn't name names but I asked him if he had snapchatted someone asking to do coke. He said oh what are you talking avout so and so ( the sister) cuz they all lie. I told him I didnt say who so he just threw himself under the bus.
I told him that I didnt believe that he wasnt doing cocaine and he said that he was going to go do it since I'm accusing him. I told him that it was messed up if his uncle was having him buy drugs for him, and he said that I buy my brother drugs (which is not true, but because my brother is an addict I've given him money in the past that he probably used for drugs. It's a sore subject for me because I'm always afraid that hes going to use money I gave him for food and buy drugs). And that's pretty much it.
Am I in the wrong here? Am I overreacting?
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